Essays on Self-Awareness
What does it mean when I have all the freedom I want but I'm not tap dancing out of bed in excitement?
I don't particularly care for competition, so with one good leg, why do I continue to train as a powerlifter when most friends quit?
When I entered Holt Renfrew with my bespoke suit and Swiss watch, I received a certain level of service. It never replicated when I returned in a v-neck shirt and shorts as the same person.
Nearly a year and a half into my journey, the most common question I get asked from friends, colleagues and family is: "Are you at least happy?"
The neglected question is: Do you know where you are and why you are wandering?
I would tell my 21 year old self: "Be more disagreeable. Don't seek permission because it'll just cause you pain. "
“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” - Mark Twain
At a higher level, I think most jobs, roles, positions, occupations etc... have three major buckets where all activities would be slotted into: Learning, Thinking and Executing.
Every job has components of it that fit under one of those three buckets but the amount of time one spends doing activities in each bucket will vary. Not to mention, how one goes about learning, thinking and executing will vary per role as well.
What am I getting at?
Well, here are some point of views from my professional experience as an auditor, consultant and investor.
Every time you say "I can't I'm too busy" to someone or something, add on "it's just not a priority." This tactic was inspired by a podcast I listened to with Debbie Millman, designer, and podcaster among many other things.
Without knowing who YOU are, are you not practically walking blind? Given life is a journey, whose journey are you on if you don't even know yourself? Finding out who you are is definitely no easy task. Then isn't that the road you should walk? The road to find who you are? If you don't then you are practically just helping someone else build their own road.
I mean, isn't that what every person who is an employee is doing? You are getting paid to essentially build out someone else's dream/goal/whatever higher-calling. Now there is nothing wrong with being an employee, especially since apprenticeship is a necessary step to achieve mastery in something.